Is empathy lost on us?

        India, as a nation, is developing faster with a rapidly growing economy. We are the world's fourth-largest economy. In the cities, most people lead a comfortable life with good education and a well-paying job. In metropolitan cities, the cost of living is extraordinarily high. Housing, education, healthcare, transport, and even leisure come at a premium. Hence, in the quest to acquire a financially comfortable life, people work for a larger number of hours. Ambition turns into compulsion. Gradually, life gets divided into two rigid compartments — weekdays and weekends. Weekdays are for relentless work, deadlines, and targets. Weekends are reserved for spending — dining out, shopping, short trips — almost as compensation for the stress endured during the week. Fun is scheduled. Rest is calculated. Joy is postponed. 

        The search for a better and more luxurious lifestyle has turned many of us into arrogant and rude people. In the whole process, we have lost empathy. Empathy is a quality that is ingrained in every human being. But the pursuit of happiness has made us lose touch with our fellow human beings.

I realised this during my recent visit to Sri Lanka. Even in cities like Colombo, Weligama, and Bentota, people were very friendly and trustworthy. The country is going through a bad economic phase. People are struggling to earn a living, and the cost of living is also high. Since the majority of the goods are imported from neighbouring countries, heavy taxes are levied on them, making it costlier for common people.

The civilians were so grateful when we bought goods from them. I could see the joy in their faces even when only one material was bought. The shopkeepers were glad that their goods were getting sold. Difficult situations make people humble. It is humbling and touching to see them still in touch with humanity.

This is something that we have lost in India, especially in the cities. Even though Indians are friendly and helpful in nature, somewhere along the line, we have lost touch with humanity. Hence, for us, everything is a transaction, and there should be a profit involved. Investing in empathy doesn't gain us interest, hence we don't entertain it. It is important to search within ourselves where true happiness lies, and hence, work towards it.

True happiness does not reside in luxury apartments, branded possessions, or extravagant weekends. Money undoubtedly provides comfort and security. It can buy experiences, education, and healthcare. But it cannot purchase inner contentment. If we are disconnected from ourselves and from others, no amount of wealth can fill that void. The constant search for “more” becomes endless. Each achievement gives temporary satisfaction, followed by another desire. And so, the cycle continues — work hard during the week, spend on the weekend, repeat.

Perhaps the real question we must ask ourselves is: what are we truly chasing?

Happiness is not postponed to weekends. It is found in small weekday conversations, in shared meals, in kindness to strangers, in gratitude for simple blessings, celebrating the success of friends and colleagues. It lies in slowing down enough to notice another person’s struggle. It lies in helping without calculating benefit. It lies in reconnecting with the core of our humanity.

Development and empathy need not be opposites. Economic growth should not come at the cost of emotional poverty. A nation progresses not only through GDP and infrastructure but also through compassion and social harmony.

As cities grow taller, may our hearts grow wider.

Because at the end of the day, what we remember are not the profits made or targets achieved — but the moments when we felt connected, understood, and human.

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